Women are known to be the ones who love to be involved in relationships. We hear countless stories about how women seem to get caught up. And in time wanting serious relationships. When all the men really want to be is “friends with benefits.”
So are there any women out there who wants in on the “friends with benefits” wave? Is it true that we are the only ones who are getting caught up and riding the feeling train?
Honestly “Are there any women who don’t want relationships?”
How many times have you’ve been just “kicking it” with a dude and you tell him up front “Listen I’m not looking for anything serious, is that ok?” And he say’s “Yeah it’s cool because I’m not looking for anything too deep myself.”
Everyone seems to be on the same path in the beginning for whatever reason. You may have gotten out of a serious relationship and your just looking for a time waster. Or you may “like” the dude but not like him enough to allow anything serious to materialize out of the situation.
Ladies you know exactly what I’m saying. He’s cool in a lustful way, but not cool enough to lock him down and make him yours. I’m sure everyone knows a man like that.
Time has gone by and you’ve spent a couple of months together just kicking it. Hanging with one another and enjoying each other’s company which includes a little late night game of bed tag. In your mind everything is cool and running smoothly, when all of a sudden dude gets different on you. I’m talking real different.
He wants more time, seems to get in his feelings about the possibility of you entertaining other dudes and decides to hit you with the “I want to take this to another level how about you?” Although your flattered but your completely mortified at the same damn time. You’re sitting here thinking that everything is everything, while dude is sitting back plotting the take over. What in the fuck just happened?
The truth of the matter is that no one and I mean no one is exempt from getting caught up, and catching feelings. This includes men as well. In the beginning you may think to yourself that you could handle a little play with no strings attached, but honesty things are subjected to change without notice at any given time. We can not control feelings, man nor woman. We can suppress them as a way of hiding them, but that only makes matters worst.
The difference between men and woman is this, men are just better suppresses than us woman are. Well most are.
Contrary to popular belief there are tons of woman out here who are not looking for serious relationships. She may have had a hard time staying in relationships, and have had her heart broken a few times. So she have just decided that at this time being in a serious relationship is just not for her. Listen there is nothing with wrong with that. As long as you are very clear and upfront with the other party in the very beginning.
Let that person make the conscious decision for themselves. Let people have the option to decide if this is what they want. And if that is what both parties want equally, then go for it. But make sure to proceed with caution in these types of situations. Don’t have these unrealistic thoughts that you can change the other party into wanting something more.
That realization has to come when or if it feels right to them. Also know that these no strings attached relationships should not extend past a couple of months. Once you start bringing in years together, you open yourself up for those dreaded feelings. And now you are involved in a full blown open relationship unbeknownst to you.
So there you have it. Yes there are some of us ladies out here who are only interested in having a good time. And if your on of those ladies kudos to you, just remember to play it safe.
What do you think? I’d love to hear your opinion, drop it below.