Sexless in the city…
Dating *sigh* is stressful as hell. We are living in a world where dating is sort of like Survivor. Only the strong survives. And the only way to show your strength, and make it to the next round. You must battle it out with tons of other women. But there’s great news! If you survive, then you are gifted that awesome peanut butter and jelly sandwich. That peanut butter and jelly sandwich that you have been dying for.
What if, you are currently in a comfortable space, in this phase in your life? What if being attached isn’t something that you are looking to be? Or what if you are just unwilling to settle? Unwilling to settle for what’s coming your way. Like the prospective male suitors that you have been encountering, just isn’t doing it for you. And you’re currently ok with being that single chick who is sexless in the city. Until further notice any way.
For some odd reason, folks look at being single as this unfortunate situation to be in. But what some folks fail to understand is, that being single is not a horrible thing. Weirdly enough, there is this stigma placed on you. That if you are a single woman with kids, you have got to be lonely, problematic, and miserable!
One thing that people never stop to think about is that maybe you are single voluntarily. Most times depending on where you are in life, you may desperately need to be unattached. Way too often, many of us fear being alone (which is a huge problem). And that fear drives us to place ourselves in situations that are not conducive to our well being. Past situations may have made you come to realize, that time alone is needed. Needed to better assist you in becoming a better you. Which will help you attract the right people into your life. So for now, you are happy and appreciate your status of being single.
In addition, there are perks in being single. LIke having the option to causally date. And I do enjoy going out on dates, well most of the time. Unless I am too lazy to look real cute, be interesting and engaging all at once.
However when I am upbeat and in the mood. I like the aspect of meeting and learning new people. The horrible part is shifting through all of the men that comes your way. Often times, you do run across a few duds, well lots of duds. Some of who that are totally boring and not that interesting. They are unable to engage properly and so carrying conversations with them can be painful to say the least.
One of the major downsides to not being in a relationship is that you don’t have constant companionship. Especially at times when it is truly needed. Oh and there’s also the sexless part, which can be quite horrible at times. But overall, it’s doable.
With all of this being said, being single isn’t the end of the world. Dating isn’t half bad either. What ever you choose to do, just make sure it makes you happy. Never feel pressured to rush into something because you feel like thats what you need to do. In order to be happy. If being single is the right thing for you to be at this time, then be that. And if you are no longer interested in being single and sexless in the city, then date. But which ever route you decided to take, just take your time doing so. You don’t want to enter a relationship where it’s not adding to your life in a positive way.
Until next time, be happy and great while being Sexless In The City!