“I am woman, hear me roar!” Ladies you ever feel like you could take on the world? Ever feel like you are every woman, and nothing is too much for you to tackle? Then reality sets in. And you begin to feel like you are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders. You realize that you are everything, to everyone except the most important person. Yourself.
As women we do everything for everyone, but what do we do for ourselves? Some of us are mothers, wives, sisters, friends, confidants, counselors, nurses, employees, employers, etc. We wear many hats, and in our everyday life of hustle and bustle we never stop and think about the most important person. Us
Just take a minute to stop and think about this. How can we be everything to everyone, but nothing to ourselves? Usually people don’t like the thought of placing themselves first. We tend to think it’s selfish, but in fact it is needed. We can not care for the world, if we are not properly caring for ourselves.
When you pour from a empty glass, what do you get? Nothing. So how can one possibly think, that if they never put themselves up front, that they would have anything of substance to give anyone?
I know for myself as a single mother of two young girls, who also holds a full time job of 40 hrs a week. While in the process of doing certain things for herself professionally outside of her 9-5. Trying to carve out time to have a personal life, it is hard as hell. It is hard to say “Ok I’m going to take a moment for myself.” When? Where? How? This is something I tend to struggle with personally. I have come to the realization, that it must be done by any means necessary. If I want to sustain a healthy mental state, and do all of the things I want and need to do. Plus give what is needed to those around me, then I must crave out at least an hour for myself.
Once again, but how do you ask?
If you can, take a day just for self, then exercise that right to do so. Treat yourself to lunch or dinner at one of your favorite restaurants. Maybe take in that movie that you wanted to see, but never felt you have the time to. How about now that the weather is changing, take yourself out for a nice stroll. Soak in the atmosphere around you. That’s something we do not do enough of, and we actually tend to miss out on all of beauty the world around us has to offer. We are in such a rush to get from point A, to point B. That we miss out on a lot of what nature has to offer us.
Maybe you are a working mom, and you are unable to get out often. Or you have small kids, no babysitters, or your money is just tight. Then on the weekends, wake up a little bit earlier. Or put the kids to bed earlier than usual. Take a moment to sit with your thoughts, and be one with self. Include a glass of wine if you can. It makes the moments alone all the more enjoyable and refreshing.
Ladies whatever it is you choose to do, make it a point to release stress by putting yourself first more often than never. Also let me know how you tae time for self. I would love to hear from you.
Take care and be great!